I ask “What do you think?”
If the feedback is frank and negative, then my instant reaction would be “Whatever man!”
Truth though can be really sweet I discovered. Picture this: You buy a dress or a T shirt for a party that is too tight and you think you look like a million bucks. You walked around and everyone caught sight of your excess baggage. No one except your best friend, who was shocked, took you in one corner and asked you to never wear it again.
What you could do in the future is hire a stylist the next time you go shopping or just take that frank friend of yours along.
We all need the sweet truth sometimes, otherwise Karishma Kapoor would have never shaped her eyebrows and guys would still be wearing the knitted vest that Hrithik wore! Gawd!
Got a life-changing decision to make? Get many opinions. Always listen to someone who can be frank, knows when you’re quitting and when you’re losing, knows when you have to make a stand and when you should be quiet.
As time passes, you realize that you can consult experts, learn a completely new task and become an expert yourself too. Always do that, don’t depend on other people’s knowledge. If it’s a skill, dude you can pick it up. But we always need opinions. We all need criticism, comments, feedback, observations, insults, rejections, praise, and bonuses. We need the whole gamut. We need frankness. Else we would all be wearing garish bra-like tops like Tanisha (in Neal n Nikki) and think we look hot!
To the best critic in my life:
I like to fly away, but you always bring me down.
I like to escape, but you bring me to fight it out.
I like to dream, and you allow me to dream!
Coz you know how to give me the sweet truth without bringing me down.
If you get feedback that you don’t want, like - your nail polish’s chipped, you really have to learn some keyboard shortcuts, don’t type with two fingers, etc. then take a step back and don’t get irritated instantly coz you may not get any frankness at all.
So what is it for you? Sweet truth or bitter lies?
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Fantastic post, SumFinn! It’s sweet truth for me! God knows I’ve made a total ass of myself once or twice with what I’ve worn to a couple of parties. And now when i recall, it was bitter lies that got me to don something that was not made to fit my physique. Guess some people really want you to fall hard. So now I trust my own instincts and turn to people I know I can completely trust to give me honest feedback and advise.