A warning : This article is strictly for women and sexually confused men. Rest all…go take a hike!
Okay ladies, Remember Kate Winslet in Titanic or Julia Roberts in Erin Brockovich? Apart from being great actors with brilliant performances, the one thing they have in common is perfect outer and perfect innerwear. To those unused to thinking on these lines, take a minute and conduct a mental scan of the ladies. Imagine now those beautiful clothes over ill-fitting, unflattering innerwear. Not a pleasant sight right? Isn’t it surprising then, that we continue to wear appalling innerwear with the most carefully chosen outerwear.
Dissatisfied with the idea of having to wear a heavy corset underneath a new sheer evening gown she just bought for a social event, socialite Mary Phelps Jacob of New York and her maid, Marie, devised a backless bra made from two handkerchiefs, some ribbon and cord. Amazingly she started getting orders for it that very night
Bra history began as far back as Cretan times, but 1907, was the year when the word brassiere was first reported in an American copy of Vogue. The original French meaning was support, but the word was out of use and the French chose to call a bra soutien-gorge.
When choosing any outfit, be it an elegant evening dress, office wear or casual wear, most women are consciously or subconsciously attempting to project a certain attitude or image. The effectiveness of this communication could very easily be diluted through a lack of attention to ‘what lies beneath’. The most beautifully cut outerwear still draws largely on innerwear to achieve that perfect silhouette. You may have got the right accessory, make up and shoes; but the wrong inner wear can ruin the ensemble.
The first modern brassiere to receive a patent was one invented by a New York socialite named Mary Phelps Jacob in 1913.
Most of the major designers of the era have tried to lay claim to designing the first bra. Poiret probably had the strongest claim. What is certain is that all the designers promoted a simple breast retaining garment as better for the newer simple straight dress styles. In the costume history of bras these early bras were similar to camisoles tops of the 1980s and 1990s. Initially at the turn of the 20th century even the word camisole was used too, but replaced by ‘Bust Bodice’ by 1905.
An unhealthy and painful device designed to narrow an adult women’s waist to 13, 12, 11 and even 10 or less inches, the corset is attributed to Catherine de Médicis, wife of King Henri II of France. She enforced a ban on thick waists at court attendance’s (1550’s) and started over 350 years of whalebones, steel rods and midriff torture.
Many of us don’t realize the importance having a good support system until it’s too late.
Where do we go wrong you may ask?
- Wear fabrics with a smooth silky fall and match it with ill-fitting innerwear that shows through your outerwear as ungainly criss cross lines.
- Wear knits or figure hugging clothes and then wear functional innerwear that does absolutely nothing to flatter your figure
- Wear innerwear that brings too much support into play and immediately conjures images of pop icon Madonna in metal cones.
- Skip a bra when wearing a backless top. Unless completely unaffected by gravity, please do not attempt this.
Knowledge on how to team one’s inner and outerwear could transform the way you look and feel.
Warner produces the first popular all-elastic bra, which shows off a woman’s curves.
SOME POINTS TO REMEMBER:
- A balconette bra is designed to lift the breasts so as to give a fuller and rounder look by pushing the breast up from the bottom.
- Low back outfits, halter, and racer back tops require a transparent backed bra that provides the complete backless look.
- A seamless bra has moulded cups and no seams. It gives a smooth appearance under clothing. A wonderful style when you want a bra that is almost invisible for sheer or clingy fabrics.
- Low cut dresses and eveningwear call for a push up bra / plunge bra that is designed to push the breast from the bottom and the sides to add a cup size. This gives the required lift and is ideal when an outfit calls for a more filled-out look.
- The 4 way bra can be worn with straps / without straps / with a single strap / straps that criss cross is made with specially designed elastics to ensure a better grip and does not slip. It’s a much-needed wonder bra that can be tweaked to suit almost any tricky requirement.
The first bikini swimwear is introduced in Paris in 1946
Every woman is unique in body and soul and one should wear a bra that complements that.
The 1960s saw the women’s liberation movement denouncing bras as a symbol of conformity and servitude and encouraging bra burning rallies. The Hippie and free-love movement would see the bra abandoned altogether, resulting in the braless look.
There are some movies that make you cry. Then there are some that lift your spirits and re-confirm your faith in humanity.(If that is even possible) But lets be honest here. Don’t we just looove those movies that leave us unsettled, disgusted and completely shell shocked?!! ( Yes. I knew it!) So here it is. List of 10 most disgustingly amazing movies that is gurantedd to leave you depressed for weeks. ( I can see you smiling now!)
Remember, the list is not in any particular order.
Enjoy and don’t forget the popcorns!!
Requiem for a Dream (2000)
Based on a 1978 novel of the same name, this complex, psychological drama depicts different form of addiction leading to the characters’ imprisonment in a dream world of delusion and reckless desperation, which is then overtaken and devastated by reality. The story revolves around four characters. Mother Sara (Ellen Burstyn) is going to appear on TV game show. She wants to fit into a beautiful red dress which gets her addicted to diet pills. Meanwhile, the son (Jared Leto) his girlfriend (Jennifer Connelly) and his best friend are fighting their addiction of drugs, very unsuccessfully. All of characters spiral out of control and fall into a pit of darkness and misery with no scope of recovering. If you are looking for a movie to cheer you up, then this isn’t definitely the one.
Casualties of War
Based on a true story, this Brian De Palma film stares Michael J. Fox as a soldier in Vietnam in a squad led by Sean Penn. While on patrol, in the wake of an ambush that has left friends dead, they kidnap and rape a Vietnamese woman–then murder her. But Fox, one of the soldiers who refused to participate in the rape, is so appalled by the killing that he reports it–and finds himself being treated as the villain. Penn is scarily tough as the vindictive soldier. Throughout the movie the gore is shown thorough the brutal actions of the actors which in turn leave you mortified at cruelties of the human mind. Not a family entertainer for sure.
Pi
Math is a universal language. Everything can be represented with numbers. If you are smart enough to understand the pattern, you can decode anything. The Torah for instance is a long string of numbers. Decode that and you can know the true name of god. Sounds a bit odd? That’s what Pi is all about. Max (Sean Gullette) is a genius mathematician who’s built a supercomputer at home that provides something that can be understood as a key for understanding all existence. Representatives both from a Hasidic cabalistic sect and high-powered Wall Street firm hear of that secret and attempt to seduce him to get the string of numbers that can decode anything. Brilliantly written and directed by Darren Aronofsky, this dark and disturbing drama didn’t get the attention it deserves. But a must watch nevertheless.
Natural born killers
The story is about tow natural born killers, Mickey (Woody Harrelson) and Mallory Knox (Juliette Lewis) who thinks that killing is some sort of a higher cognitive activity. They do what Bonnie and Clyde did year’s ago. They enjoy senseless and meaningless murders without a motive. Everyone in the movie seems to be ready to kill one another. Directed by Oliver Stone, this satirical film highlights the sensationalized way crimes are depicted in the media and the manner some killers have been glamorized. Although it was the most controversial movie of its time, the film was criticized for its excessively graphic and violent content. Depending on how you view it, it could be an intelligent attack on your senses or a well crafted aggression that can have any impact on you. Be sure to watch this one.
Ichi the killer
Have you ever seen a movie that just left you sitting there with your eyes wide open, begging for more? Based on the popular manga by Hideo Yamamoto the story is set within the yazuka underworld. After his yazuka boss goes missing, Kakihara (Tasanobu Asano) uses his sadistic methods of interrogations to find the boss’s assumed killers. Working his way through the underworld connections-with the use of hot oil, piercing needles, and large hooks-Kakihara discovers this boss demise came at the hands of Ichi (Nao Omori), a mysterious figure that slices individuals into bloody pieces with razor sharp blades strapped to his boots. As Kakihara draws closer, Ichi turns the tables on the hunter and brings his own vengeance, served up sushi style. Directed by Takashi Miike, Ichi the Killer is one of the most violent films ever to have been made, and the intensity of the emotions aroused by its depictions of countless acts of brutality is enhanced by the exaggerated manner in which these acts are presented. Highly recommended, but be forewarned, it will take a strong stomach.
Irreversible
The basic story of Irreversible involves three protagonists; the sultry Alex, her boyfriend Marcus and her ex, Pierre. During a night at a friend’s party the relationship disintegrates - due in part to Marcus’ drug-taking and womanizing and the on-going sexual tension between Alex and Pierre - which eventually results in Alex leaving the party early. Unable to cross the street, she takes the underpass and is violently raped and beaten. Still high and irrational, Marcus drags Pierre through the nocturnal Parisian streets (quizzing local gangsters and prostitutes for information regarding potential attackers), before eventually ending up at the gay S&M club. Here the story comes to a head and a scene of violent retribution plays out. Extremely disturbing French film directed by Gaspar Noé, Irreversible features a revenge plot told in reverse chronological order (similar to Memento) - punctuated by extreme violence and a brutally graphic rape scene that runs approximately nine minutes. Surely not for the faint hearted.
Eraserhead
Considered one of the truly groundbreaking independent films to emerge in the horror and horror/thriller genres, Eraserhead offers a vaguely linear plot, ambiguously motivated and realised characters, and despite an atmospheric dreamscape created via such familiar images from psychoanalysis as spewing liquids and worm-like organisms, an arguably incoherent set of messages about the interconnectedness of sexuality, identity, violence and loss. It is a surrealist horror film with no definite script. You have to watch it to believe its intensity and how it plays with the human mind. Eraserhead initially polarized and baffled many critics and movie-goers, but over time the film has become a cult classic.
Seven
A serial killer is on the loose. That’s never a good thing, but what makes this guy particularly gruesome is that he’s got a style. Each of its victims are so called perpetrators of the sol-called “Seven deadly sins”. (Gluttony, greed, pride, envy, sloth, envy and wrath). Step forward two detectives and reluctant partners David Mills (Brad Pitt) and William Somerset (Morgan Freeman) who are handed the job to track down the psychopath before he can complete his plan. This is one of those dark movies, where it is constantly raining and wet and where light always seems to be dim. If you are not one for blood and gore, you might want to miss this as director David Fincher doesn’t hold back when it comes to showing of the various victims in all their grisly details. Seven attempts to be a statement about humanity: no one is without sin.
A Clockwork Orange
Set in the near future, the movie centers around the life of the fifteen-year-old protagonist Alex (Malcolm McDowell), who, along with his gang, roams the streets at night, committing crimes purely for enjoyment. The crimes increase in severity from assault, to robbery, to arson, to a fight with rival gang, to a break-in at the house of a handicapped man, where the gangs rape his wife. Equally violent is the state’s aversion therapy Alex is forced to endure to cure him of his addiction. Adapted from Anthony Burgess’s slim best-selling novel, A Clockwork Orange became infamous in 1973, not because of the extreme violence on show, but for director Stanley Kubrick’s decision to withdraw the movie in the UK, because of copycat acts of violence blamed on the film. A must watch movie for those who don’t mind violence at the cost of brilliant film making.
Salo: The 120 days of Sodom
Salò is one of the handful of genuinely disturbing movies ever made. It leaves you shaken, not simply because of what it is depicting but also because of how. Four upper-class libertines gather in an elegant palazzo to inflict the extremes of sexual perversion and cruelty upon a hand-picked collection of young men and women. Meanwhile, three ageing courtesan’s enflame the proceedings further by spinning tales of monstrous depravity. A cinematic ground zero, Salò confirms the cruel meaninglessness of everything human. Based on the infamous book, The 120 Days of Sodom by the Marquis de Sade, Salo contains its fair share of disturbing imagery and graphic violence, including rape, torture and murder. For this reason, it is still banned in some countries even to this day - good luck finding a copy! Director Pier Paolo Pasolini was brutally murdered shortly after the film’s release. Be warned–Salò will test the very limits of your endurance.
Summer is here and it is already scorching my head and heart, leaving it terribly dehydrated. To be honest here summer is not my best times. And you cant blame me! It is blazing hot, no matter how less I dress it always seems more, and it is one of those rare seasons when I don’t feel like stepping out of home at all.
( Some of you may not that a big a deal, but for me, it is like going without water)
But there is always a light at the end of the tunnel because there is something that makes the treacherous heat of the summer bearable.
There will be no guessing games…so let me just get straight to the point.
Mangoes!
Yes…that yellow…juicy…fleshy…hmmm…( Okay…I will get a grip now) piece of fruit just makes me want to die, given the condition that I will be surrounded by mangoes on my deathbed and there will be loads of dancing mangoes in heaven…just for me.
Sigh!
Let me just assure you that my love for mangoes is just not a floozy, timepass sort of love.
No sir..it isn’t!
During this season, I make sure I keep myself abreast with any and every food festival that is happening in city, with a mango theme. And I usually manage to try all of them.
( I really like mangoes ok…sue me!)
Therefore, just like Frodo had a mission in life, I am always on the quest to find the best mango dishes in town that will lead me salvation. And I was in luck!
I came upon the Mango Festival that is happening at the Intercontinental, Marine drive in Mumbai. Each restaurant at the InterContinental, Marine Drive is thematically driven by the tempting king of fruits. They had every dish available which could be made through a mango. Aam ki kheer, kache aam ka jhinga, mango cheesecake, smoked chicken & mango…it is my Disneyland!!!
But just like a true adventurer, I just didn’t stop there. I got a chance to talk to the chef who prepared this delectable menu, Chef Amit Bharadwaj, Executive Chef of InterContinental.
So while eying all mouth watering spread of mango dishes behind and thus getting intensely distracted, I managed to ask the chef a couple of questions.
Me: What inspired you to have a mango festival?
Chef: The fact that what is in season is healthy, if nature produces something in a particular season, we must eat it then!!
Me: Most of the restaurants in town are having similar festivals. How does your stand out?
Chef: We have taken a holistic approach to the “KING” Alphonso and let it reflect in all the different courses of the meal this sets us off as a unique meal experience.
Me: How did you decide upon such a delectable menu?
Chef: We let our creativity be inspired by the magical Mango… the menu was the result!
Me: What goes in making a good festival?
Chef: The timing, the uniqueness and the singular will to “WOW” our customers f!
Me: What other fruits would you like to use for a festival like this?
Chef: Why use anything else to dilute the mango, we have used the mango in all its different forms, be it the dried powder, the fragrant Ripe mango or the and young green mango.
Well said chef!
I think by now, I have given the slight idea that I might be obsessed with mangoes. ( What was your first clue?!!) But then can you blame me? It is the best fruit that is created by nature and with its versatility, you make more or less 500 drinks, dishes, starters, pickles and various other edible items out of it. Most of the other fruits stay limited to squashes or syrups!
Now before I continue my rant and narrate in explicit detail my dream where I had a serious conversation with a mango…just go and enjoy the fruit. The season will come to and end soon and so the reign of the king. ( And by “king” I don’t mean Shahrukh khan!)
Visit http://mumbai.burrp.com/events.html for more information.
Some common symptoms that you are as tongue tied in front of you in-laws as a wet rabbit infront of a wild boar:
- You start stuttering and stammering and discover than you can actually speak Peruvian!
- You agree with whatever they say. (Even if that means that your house is too small and their daughter deserves a place to stay)
- You watch saas bahu serials with them because they say it’s “educational”.
- You don’t even let a squeak out when they shove enormous amount of greasy and bland food down your throat!
Fear not! You are not alone my friend!
You are just a part of the every growing clan called:
I rather crawl into a hole and die in fetal position, than to face my in-laws.
Okay, I agree! Some in-laws are total terror to deal with, but brace it guys and girls, it is your fault too! Okay, before you start hyperventilating, hear me out!
Phew!
Now….
There is just life altering word that you need to know before you realize that, the situation isn’t that bad. So brace yourself….here it comes…DIPLOPMACY.
There…I said it!
Usually, before tying the knot, a girl and guy can throw their weight around their parents cry and scream if she/he doesn’t like something, hold their breath till they turn blue, and voila..! All their demands will be met!
But the story is a little different after marriage, isn’t it? Your mother in-law might like that ugly pair of shoes that looks like a reject by a drag queen. Or your father in-law picked up a shiny new shirt for you, which makes you look like Neil Diamond.
So what do you do? Tell them honestly?
NO!
Unless you want to be tagged as “Unappreciative”, “Difficult” or the classic one…”Why did I get my son/ daughter get married to this ungrateful little snip”.
Ouch!
So at the end of the day, the question is what should you do? Since you are reading this article, I am sure that diplomacy isn’t one of greatest skills. So read on…because its time you acquire that crucial trait.
Here are some tips that you should follow:
Ø If you go shopping and she/he picks up something that you hate, don’t tell her directly on the face. Instead tell them that you think it looks good, but also provide them with more options and things that you think will look better. To make your case stronger, get the opinion of other people as well. For example, the sales woman.( Maybe bribe her from before)
Ø Convince her that it was their idea in the first place. Your in-laws might not like what you think, but if you make them believe that the idea was theirs in the first place, they will definitely swoon. For example, “Remember dad, you always wanted a corduroy suit? Why don’t you get that one instead?
Ø Use your smile. And by that I don’t mean in creepy way. Say what you think with a smile on your face. There are two reasons behind that. Firstly, an opinion with a smile will make less threatening and that way you will have more chances of getting your way. So next time, use the potent power of your smile.
Ø Keep giving subtle hints about what you like, hate, what you think is good or bad. Remember, the key word hers is subtle. Don’t go on announcing to the whole world but make sure it reaches the ears of the concerned person. For example, “I have there is a new cooking class which teaches all the gourmet meals. I have heard that they are great…..”
Now these are just some of the tips, but remember to rely on your wit and brain to get yourself out of a tricky situation. Yes, you do have some, I am sure! But at the end of the day, if you think the situation is getting out of control, don’t be afraid to speak your mind. Whats the worst that can happen?
If nothing else, they will respect you for your honesty and not take you as a pretty mannequin.
Yes ladies, we all want the perfect man. We all want our prince charming on his shiny bright, white limousine and we all want to keep him. Next to wherever we want him.
But everything requires tact and yes, resolution. But before you start rolling your eyes, I must explain that this isn’t primarily about finding Mr. Right or finding his second car for that matter.
It’s about keeping Mr. Right and making it work. I know, all relationships are different and then obviously require different kinds of ways, you know, to make them work! But some rules never change. The basic, fundamental rules are the elementary ones for all relationships and unfortunately the ones we tend to overlook most of the time! But no time to mope ladies! Here are my 5 cardinal rules for the relationship of your dreams unless you’re dating a cat or, your hand. They’re both really difficult to comprehend and generally to understand, you see!
So…
1- Never ever let him know of how much you dislike his folks. Elementary ladies, they might be from hell but they’re still his family and if you like this man enough to actually want his family to be a part of yours, be nice!
2- Listen to him. Yes, we know men should be told this but women tend to be really inattentive at times as well so listen to him. Thoughtfulness pays, and how!
3- Mention your ex’s once in a while. That reminds him that you have a past and expect a future; even if you don’t badger him about him constantly. And also that your life doesn’t revolve around him. (pay extra attention, if it actually does)
4- K.I.S.S. Keep It Simple Stupid! Okay, okay, that was lame but you get my drift right? Men are uncomplicated creatures and admit it; they help uncomplicate us at times. So, relax, and take it easy! We all deserve sanity don’t we?
5- Most importantly, always know what you both expect out of your relationship unless it’s a super exclusive case where it’s the sanest to keep it dangling for the moment. Talk, communicate and let each other know!
So, there, you have my rules of wisdom! Of course, irrespective of what everyone says, some things only you would know answers to. But remember, honesty, respect and communication. The HRC trio never fails unless again you’re dating a cat or your own hand in which case you really should get out more often! So, then, read the next article about socializing in the city, why don’t you?
Most of the population these days suffers from exhaustion. Back aches and headaches have become so common that usually no one even considers taking treatment for it anymore. What’s the point afterall right? Many have tried countless way of treatment, yet the hope to restore ones health wanes day after day. In this modern age of prescribed medicines and expensive drugs, many times its results are futile on the body. There are countless stories of people who are miserable and suffering because regular and expensive medication failed to help.
But an alternative form of medicine, with the belief that it can work, came to their rescue.
Sujok works on the principle that the fingers and toes carry information about ones health. In fact, hand and foot are miniature bodies in themselves.
Fingers host the so-called correspondence systems. It is a system of highly active points connected to every area of the body. The movements of the fingers stimulate this very protective system of the body. It is in this way that our organism maintains and cures itself.
Sujok treatment is done by applying various seeds to the various corresponding points at the fingers. These seeds which have tremendous healing powers in turn apply pressure and stimulate the points.
Sujok therapy, as an accessible method of improving health, is a very important and effective method of treatment. Fast and marked curative effect is achieved after correct stimulation of correspondence points. The effectiveness of the system is so high that the results are seen within minutes. Its one of the safest application. The stimulation of the accurately located point’s results in improvement, the stimulation of inaccurately found points cause no harm, it is simply ineffective.
Alternative medication has always been a matter of debate. But in this day and age when complications for the human mind and body are increasing, people are turning more towards the unchattered fields and sometimes, they are not disappointed.
*Sweta Patyal.
She is an expert in the field of Sujok and has treated numerous patients with various aliments. She runs a private clinic from home and does only private consultations. She can be contacted at 9819929478
Peace! The ultimate bliss every individual on earth is seeking & starving for, the word that unites the world evolving into a happy & holy place to live in. However, where do we get peace? Today, we wander from place to place in the pursuit of peace. Do peace really exist or just a mere word in the lexicon. Why do we pledge for peace? Ripple of thoughts flow when you magnify the world through the eyes of hope.
Lust, greed, pride, anger, attachment are so synonymous with human being. The physical form is entrapped by the vices that have ruled our mind & soul. What about love? It exists in the hearts but has metamorphosed with time; the love that dwells is the materialistic one. We are more mechanical & technical in life yet fail to get peace. The primary reason is time. No time for our family & friends. Are we so occupied and only respite is on national holidays. Don’t you think we have spun a web of complexities out of nothing? The beautiful thought flashes in my mind “If you cannot change time, it is time to change”.
Man’s mind has become vagrant & wild and the heinous deeds of mankind are reaping hyper tension, hatred & death. The debatable issues like the nuclear deal, global warming, Tibet trauma, bomb blast, the racial race & child molestation has grave emotional stress to all. Deals done, treaties signed yet the memorandum of understanding doesn’t guarantee peace. After all, peace can’t be purchased. An analysis of the problem proves that it all stems from man’s mind. Mind- the deadliest weapon of world and mind you, unemployment that leads to student unrest has its own heavy toll. As the saying goes “Empty mind is the devils workshop”.
The root of all evils that causes sorrow & sufferings springs from human mind. One must realize that peace is rooted in the mind in the form of thoughts which are manifested into actions. Self realization and self purification is required not just chanting mantras. There is PEACE IN WORLD when there is PEACE IN I. I am not my name. I am not what my profession is. So Who am I? The simplest question that brings positive thoughts and righteous actions must be answered. “As I walked by myself, I talked by myself and myself replied to me and the questions myself, then put to myself with their answers I give to thee”.
Om Shanti.
Should have known better.
Race is this really slick, polished film shot entirely in South Africa, its the kind of film Feroz Khan used to make just not as good. The story is a convoluted mix of Very Bad Things, The Heist & Goodbye Lover. There is a twist a minute and you dont know who is doing who and why, however everything unfolds pretty much in chronological order and the surprises come in your face without any build up.
The film opens and there is no real establishment of who, what, where, why instead you get thrown into things with a crash and things go from there. Sort of reminds me of Lawrence of Arabia but thats where the similarity ends. The Mustan brothers, even the both of them are not a patch on David Lean.
Anyway, the film isnt all that bad, its reasonably well shot, slightly stylish and Anil Kapoor is sort of funny and the free tickets make it barely tolerable. My problem is just with the number of cinematic mistakes the opening has a bunch of helicopter shots supposedly following a blue car but sometimes its just random aerials, then a shaky zoom in. Amateurish. Later in a supposedly major stunt the camera keeps losing focus and the editing is choppy.
Overall, despite the slickness, there are plenty of portions which are sloppy. Could have very easily been a much much better film, with just a little bit more finesse and effort.
But then, that is our bane….
Avoid, unless desperate
EDIT
SPOILER ALERT
I didnt want to do this but i couldnt stop myself. So here goes
- The plot revolves around $100million double indemnity insurance scam. Saif is killed by Akshaye Khanna for the money and then gives a cut as a bribe to Anil Kapoor (25mil)
- The funny thing here is that Akshaye ends up getting killed in an accident while racing with Saif so Saif goes on to collect $100million.
- Of course it seems the retards forgo tthat they have a dead man collecting another dead mans insurance but since one of them is alive they get only ONE payout.
- Compared to the above this one is just a minor league error. Saif collects 200million but Akshaye already gave Anil Kapoor 25 million so he is left with only 175mil.
But hey its cool. Sort of reminded my why i dont go watch most of the hindi pot boilers. Its not that they cant, its just that they dont care.
Goa, the very mention springs images of beaches, beer, babes and bongs. Of late it seems that rape and murder is almost as popular an activity in the region.
Personally i never got the attraction of Goa, for me the beach has always been South Beach, Miami but the attraction is not hard to see. Goa has beaches, miles of it, cheap housing, cheap food and cheap booze. This serves to attract a wide range of people - students holiday, junkies looking for a cheap score and retirees, ex army folk from Israel. It is one of the few truly international/cosmopolitan cities in India due to its tourist make up.
Add to this a lax administration at the best of times (the entire civil administration is only out to make a buck shaking down people) and you have the easy availability of drugs and contraband. Then you have people trying to take control (Russians)
the Bohemian make up of Goa is at stake. The hippy mindset is beginning to blow up in peoples face, take a jaunt down to Curlys in Anjuna its like Amsterdam, you can get pills, bongs are passed around in the open, the falafal platter is 200 bucks you will start to see what the attraction is.
So what is the big deal? This has been going on for a while, the trance, the pills, the sex, so whats the fuss all about? The fuss is that crime is becoming a big part of this little state. People are being murdered and the drug use is getting out of hand. The hippies forget that everyone is not a hippie, free love, peace and all that bullshit. Plenty of people are there just to make a buck or take advantage of the situation.
Add to this the overtly aggressive and repressed Indian male and his propensity to consider all foreign women as easily available and you will see a pattern emerging which will end with acts like those forced upon Scarlett this past fortnight. The authorities need to wake up, to the threat this sort of situation holds for the entire tourism Industry.
The hippies need to wake the fuck up as well and figure out that they need to be safe first and then enjoy life and all the jazz. Ridiculous shit like sex for rent and sex for food is not the way to go through life. It will almost always end up blowing up in your face. I have seen so many women walk around unaided at 4am that its a sheer surprise you dont hear of more women being attacked.
Overall, i think Goa is dying, a day will come when the shit will hit the fan, people will be kicked out and then the locals will be left holding the shit bucket. One they helped fill.
Well folks, it’s not about some talk show or speed dating but observation in a cafeteria while sipping coffee and leisurely reading the daily paper. A regular to the coffee café, every morning I used to drop in and grab the daily dose of drink. As I enjoyed my Cappuccino, my eyes watched people near by and ears trapped the chit chat. It was tons of fun.
Good morning kiss and a hug was a common way to start a conversation among young. Aunties scored good grade over daily house chore talks whilst uncles discussed about the men in blue. Miss mobile’s, kept blabbering on cell and yes you do get to discover workaholics, who opens up their notebook and God knows what they keep tabbing. Right from love to lust, money to movies, you get to listen all.
As usual I entered, but this time my eyes got attracted to a bunch of boys who were very animated and well dressed too, so sat just next to them. As I did, could hear nothing. They were dumb and deaf yet so alive and kicking. Amazed at the art, it was like a dance form. The graceful moments of their hands and the expressive eyes were in tandem with their thoughts, clearly expressed. They joked, debated and enjoyed. They were talking about a guy from the group itself and his failed promises; in return he was supporting himself giving reasons which ended in a joke for all. It was a simple discussions but different.
The art of conversation they had was unique…. it was silent but meaningful. Their facial expression, hand gestures and body postures communicated messages effectively. Many times our words fail to express but a right gesture explains it all, For example smiling is a powerful cue that transmits happiness, friendliness & warmth. The conversation elucidated the importance of non verbal communication. When both verbal and non verbal forms of communications are used properly, the conversation is more meaningful & clear.
In a cafeteria, coffee mug is in my hand and my eyes on you. I just love good coffee and great conversation.
Om shanti om!
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