blackbubblegum, I find it both interesting and somewhat unbelievable that “looks” did not make the top 10 - as altruistic as we all like to believe we are, my experience tells me that girls would definitely put general good looks in their top 10 of desirables for men. My experience has also shown that having some kind of talent is huge with women - whether it be artistic, musical, athletic, etc. Am I wrong, girls?

Well Varun,

Its quite possible that the authot and her friends don list looks and skills into their own top - ten.

And I am gonna have to disagree on the point that looks matter so much so to a girl that it has to be in the top ten always. Look, yes, do matter to a girl, but there are other factors too which they look at.

Skills…. , maybe yes !

Lets just wait for the girls and their arguments.

~Presh ^_^

blackbubblegum, i think you missed out 1 point, which definitely features in Top 10 things, probably top 3…..its the FINANCIAL STABILITY Factor!!

Girls look for stability in their guys, if they were to have long-term relationship. For this reason they may sacrifice Point no. 9 - Ambitious..

Boys!
Rohan, you have got us girls figured all wrong dude! yes, looks do matter , i aint gonna lie to you but only a tit bit not so much that it did feature in the 1st 10 traits they want in their man. Girls like guys who are responsible and sensible. Now if you look no guy is a bad looker, its just his sense of style, his attitude, his ego or his dressing sense and mentality that makes him look good! I mean if you just get yourself a “personality makeover” (just incase the guy finds himself not goodlooking) maybe that’ll do the job to score women! hehehe…
Girls love men with personality….they are the men every guy envies! Ain’t I right my gurls?
and by thy way
Presh thanks for taking my side
and
Santosh…….YES! that is a top priority but I think it goes ahnd in hand with the 9th point that is ambitious cause if a guy knows what he wants in life and knows how to get there then there’s nothing that can stop him and one day he’ll rise to have the financial stability he deserves! This article has been written keeping GEN-X in mind. What i meant to reflect is that a girl who knows that her man knows what he has to do with his life is the early sign that he will one day have rise to be a honorable and respectable man with money to finance her shopping…lol…:P
But, seriously I’ll tell you one thing, a girl would rather want a honorable and respectable guy than a guy who lives of his dad’s moolah! I am talking about decent girls ofcourse who don’t get involved with the guy to inherit his big bucks and his killer mansion! aka a pure Julie Cooper!

(PS: Just incase you don’t know who Julie is, she is that simply-incredible character on the O.C…that is if you watch it! Cause am a very huge fan!)

Keeping crumb”ing” you guys! I can get used to this…haha! :))

BlackBubblegum

BlackBubblegum, guy who knows what he wants, has to sacrifice somethings and he might take some time to be really financially stable.

After all, dreams take time to materialize, especially ambitious ones.

That’s a tall order, blackbubble gum. I for one am not sure there are many boys out there with all 10 of your qualities + good looks (for although girls don’t like handsome dumb guys, they dislike scruffy intellectuals even more). You and your friends are describing the IDEAL. What happens when you realise that this is just wishful thinking? Or do you think they’ll come around and mould themselves to suit your tastes?

thinktank, I think you (partially) have a very good point.

as people get older, their wants and needs change. what I wanted at 22 is VERY different than what I wanted at say, 30. now most of those things blackbubblegum listed make perfect sense. in some ways they still do for me, but I am a bit more willing to ease up on a few of them now that I am older. of course things like respect and support are non-negotiable, but the dressing thing… well… hee…

I think most men can achieve all those. they might not master them, but who’s perfect? and I think some girls might substitute some other values here. but yeah, if you’re bing serious, looks don’t even factor in. when you love someone they become attractive to you, even if you didn’t thin they were a head-turner before you really got to know them!

thinktank says:
That’s a tall order, blackbubble gum. I for one am not sure there are many boys out there with all 10 of your qualities + good looks (for although girls don’t like handsome dumb guys, they dislike scruffy intellectuals even more). You and your friends are describing the IDEAL. What happens when you realise that this is just wishful thinking? Or do you think they’ll come around and mould themselves to suit your tastes?

Well, thinktank, ofcourse she has described the IDEAL. She’s aptly named the entry “What girls really want” Something that they look for in a guy. Something that they expect a guy to be with.

This is something like the configuration of a Computer. You cannot have everything in a Computer, but you do wish that you get the best. Its always “More the merrier” ain’t it ?

I couldn’t have found better words than to explain myself! Thanks Presh! Your my savior!

I came up with this just to let you’ll know that the chics noawdays are looking for… I am again repeating myself that i have formulated this with my girlfriends keeping young minds at mind….I never said you need to master them all! Every girl is unique…and she wants different qaulities in her man..these were well, perhaps a outline of almost what all girls my age want!

Smallsquirrel…….I am soo happy that you feel this way and agree with me that at this age that is teenage…we want different things…and later on in life our views might change…..so I am just happy that you seem to see that all I have tried to do…is give the guys a mere idea!

And Yea Santosh…..Dreams do take time to materialize..but if that girl of yours believes in your dreams then she would be willing to stay by your side….!

These crumbs are getting even more interesting…..one by one…..I hope more people join in to the chaos!!

BlackBubblegum

Am not sure these, albeit fun, evaluation criteria matter…

We are all social (animals and people) and we understand what it takes or doesn’t to make it work out. And by working out, I mean; plain simple, getting along.

This is my opinion and you are free to accept it or get me going.

Instead of going with what comes naturally, you end up measuring (yourself) up and this does necessarily happen consciously. It’s good to have these around (for the more uninitiated one’s) to keep to the basic sense of decency.

You know you are walking k the talk, the day you are clear about what you are getting into and why.

This list really seems like a list of “Don’t Approach Me (till the above are fulfilled)”

Though, I appreciate the list from a woman’s POV. It helps making the general “meeting up” atmosphere a lot cleaner.

Thanks anyways.

I’m sorry, but surveying a dozen of your own friends isn’t exactly an unbiased statistical sample.

As a 25 year old woman, I would have to disagree with your Top 10 List. Many of these points are obvious, and not really that insightful. “You respect her and her family”…isn’t that kind of a given? Why would any guy expect a girl to like her if he didn’t at least respect her?

Things like “good dresser” are meaningless, since a girl can easily upgrade a guy’s wardrobe once they start dating.

I personally feel that most of these are superficial and miss the more important points about depth of character, passion for life, and sharing an intellectual, spiritual and sexual connection.

After having read the above I would recommend the guys to also read Lochivar, a poem by Sir Walter Scott. Gives a good perspective of what a woman wants.

I love to read how man should be and what the girl likes to see in a Guy… Great and full of knowledge.

bg,
you know this is all just platitudes. any girl will drop all that ambition, sense of humour crap for a buffed unemployed loser beefcake who looks like Salmaan Khan at the drop ot a hat

Hi,

I’m 6ft tall and have a 6-pack!

Any ladies up for dating?

Just kiddin..

Приветствую всех!
У меня такой вопрос,кто что интересное подскажет буду признателен.
Мы с друзьями собираемся поехать в круиз по просторам России и ближнего зарубежья месяца на два на своих машинах,но не как не можем согласовать маршрут,если у кого уже был опыт такого путешествия,может,что посоветуете.Девчонок с собой не берем,думаем,что во все городах России с этим не будет проблем,если у кого будут рекомендации и в вопросе отдыха с девушками тоже буду признателен.

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